41 Things

In honor of this being my birthday week (I turned 41 this past Tuesday), I thought I’d put together a list of some things I’ve learned, appreciate, realized or am working on during my 42nd year on this earth. 

I’m looking forward to seeing what this year brings. 

Here we go:

1. I have no idea what I’m doing….. (does anyone?)

2. …..but I do my best.

3. Some days I feel like a freakin’ rock star. 

4. Other days I wish I could have a do over on life.

5. It’s ok to be lazy and feed my kids cereal for dinner. 

6. I don’t think I could love anything as much as I love my kids. They are my heart and I hope and pray that I’m doing good by them. 

7. My husband is the best of the best. He’s my best friend and he makes me want to be a better human. I’m so happy that he’s on my side and has my back. He’s seen me at my best and has loved me even more at my worse. I am forever thankful for that.

8. It’s ok to walk away from something or someone that isn’t good for you and doesn’t serve you.

9. Life is so precious. And beautiful. And also can be pretty painful. Getting older has taught me that it isn’t all black and white. There is some grey in there too. 

10. I’m way stronger than I think I am. I am capable of much more than I give myself credit for.

11. I compare myself to others more than I should and it’s something that I’m working on. I’m getting better at loving and accepting myself as I am, but some days are still tough in that department. I think we all have those days. But look in the mirror and repeat “I am SO fabulous!” and then, go about your day. 

12. There is beauty every where – if you choose to look for it. It’s always there. 

13. It’s ok to cry. Acting like you have it all together is just lame. And doesn’t help anyone. Especially you. 

14. It’s ok to take naps…..every damn day if I want to. 

15. Let people in and let them love you. It’s scary at first but totally worth it.

16. Always go with your gut. It’s rarely wrong. 

17. I don’t like to make mistakes…..

18. …..but I’m trying to be gracious (and admit when I make them) with myself when I do make them.

19. Getting older is awesome. I’m learning more about myself and I’m having fun doing it. Hello 41…..you’re gonna be a good year, I can tell. 

20. The only opinion that really should matter to me is that of myself and those who love me and want the best for me. 

21. You don’t have to explain yourself when you say “No.” That can be your final answer. 

22. I have anxiety (diagnosed 10 years ago after having a panic attack). It doesn’t make me crazy, weird, insane or incapable. It just means that I have to make sure I give myself extra self care. 

23. Putting yourself out there is very scary and uncomfortable but it always stretches you and makes you grow. Keep doing it. It gets easier. 

24. Being a parent has got to be THE most anxiety inducing thing I’ve ever done. 

25. Deciding to be a parent is also the BEST thing I’ve ever done.

26. I am not a morning person. Don’t look at me until about 11am.

27. I don’t have a relationship with my Dad. I wish I did, but it’s best that I don’t. I had to walk away from that relationship. It hurts like hell, but it’s the best thing for me at this point in my life.

28. I want to make a difference while I’m here. Not sure how, but I do know that I have something to share with those around me.

29. Keep it simple.

30. I hope that my kids look to Rob and I as great role models in their lives. 

31. No one has their shit together no matter how pretty their Facebook or Instagram feeds look. 

32. Give people grace. We’re all doing the best that we can. 

33. Progress is better than perfection.

34. Perfection is NOT REAL.

35. I will always smile at you. And hope that you find something to smile about even when you don’t smile back. 

36. Some call it “aggressive or confrontational.” I call it “being real, honest and not being a taker of crap.”

37. Baby steps are perfectly fine. They’re better than not moving forward at all.

38. I have a purpose here. So do you. We’re all meant for greatness and incredible things. 

39. Empathy and gratitude. You can never go wrong when they are a foundation in life. 

40. Don’t ever let anyone write your story for you. We all have a story to share. Own it. And tell it. 

41. You don’t need anyone’s permission to do your thing. You do you. 

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  1. Marika
    Posted October 7, 2016 at 9:44 am | Permalink

    LOVE this! And love YOU!

    • toshaterpilowski
      Posted October 7, 2016 at 10:28 am | Permalink

      Awwww….thank you sweet friend. And I love you! xx

  2. Rob
    Posted October 8, 2016 at 10:42 am | Permalink

    You are amazing. Whenever you feel like #4, refer to #3

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